Telling people

When I got pregnant I wanted to tell the world, but I didn't. I told my husband, of course, and then I told my 2 sisters. We were all cautiously excited. Before I was pregnant, I would always say that you should tell friends and loved-ones because if something were to happen with the pregnancy, you can receive emotional support. You would tell people close to you what was happening whether it was good or bad. My husband felt like we should wait. He felt the same about telling people so that we would receive support, but all of sudden you think about who you will tell, and realize it's a lot of people. Then you go through the, "maybe we should tell parents first in case they get the news from others." And that goes the same with certain friends. And then you do think, if we tell people early on and you do miscarry, you have to go back and tell everyone you've told already. That just sounded like a lot of work and it made me realize that's why most people don't say anything until they know for sure that it is viable pregnancy.

So, we waited until we got the go ahead from the dr., but it was so hard. Think about it, 6 weeks before you can really tell anyone. We got the go ahead at 10 weeks, which I still thought was kind of early. I was still thinking that I wasn't in the clear entirely. It was such a relief to tell people. It's interesting to see people's reactions too. Those that have children are so excited for you and get almost emotional. Love that. Then those who don't have children are so excited for you too, but it's definitely different.

What I thought was kind of funny was when I would tell people, especially women, they would automatically look at my midsection. The next question was, "how far along are you?" At first I felt a bit self-conscious about the look, but then I thought it just a natural reaction. Then you get all the typical questions: "when is your due date?", "are you going to find out if it's a boy or a girl?", "are you going to go back to work?", "how are you feeling?" It's definitely fun to talk about - you never get tired of it. At least I haven't.